One of the most difficult decisions in a woman's life is what to do about an unwelcome pregnancy.
If you are reading this, you may be facing this decision. Perhaps you have spiritual and religious concerns as you consider what you will do. The Religious Coalition for Reproductive Choice offers these thoughts to help you clarify your beliefs.

Should you choose abortion, adoption, or parenting? Ultimately, only you can decide what is right for you. We believe that God has given us the gift of free will and blesses decisions that are made thoughtfully, with knowledge and faith.

Be assured that, no matter what you decide, you are a person who is loved and valued by God.

We believe that life is a gift from God.
In thinking about an unwelcome pregnancy, you should consider your own life as well as the new life you might bring forth. Your physical health and emotional well-being are sacred concerns. Only you know if you are prepared for the responsibility of bringing another life into the world.

How should you understand your unwelcome pregnancy?
Pregnancy is not a punishment for what you have done or not done. Pregnancy is a natural occurance. It is a great gift when it is planned, welcome and healthy. When it is unplanned, unwelcome, or will not have a healthy outcome, you have the responsibility of making the best decision you can. We do not believe that God wills that all pregnancies must continue. Consider that one out of every three pregnancies ends of its own accord, through miscarriage or some other natural process.

Should you consider the needs and desires of others?
Family, friends, and others you care about may offer you advice, with your best interests at heart. But a decision about an abortion is yours to make, with your healthcare provider and your God and, if you wish, others in your life. Thinking about your own needs does not mean you are selfish. We believe God entrusts us with the sacred responsibility to take care of ourselves.

Who can help me make this decision?
Part of taking care of yourself is talking to someone you trust and feel will be non-judgmental - your husband or partner, a family member, a close friend, or member of the clergy. Consulting a healthcare professional about any health concerns you have is essential. It is wise to avoid people you feel will not be supportive.

What does the Bible say?
Sincere people of faith interpret passages of the Bible differently and disagree about what is right. For instance, the Bible does not mention the word "abortion." Yet some people quote scripture to try to prove what they believe about abortion.
In our experience as clergy and counselors, people who respect you will help you come to a decision that is right for you. They will not talk to you as if their own views were the only moral views. Remember that you are a moral, responsible person, able to make your own decisions.

As you know, there are no easy answers.
You are the person who must weigh everything involved in this decision. Supportive clergy and lay religious leaders in your congregation and community, such as a religious educator, can help. You can ask friends, family, clinic staff, and others you know to help you find people to talk to who will understand your concerns.

These questions may help you as you begin moving toward your decision.

How do I really feel about the possibility of becoming a parent?

• Am I physically and emotionally able to handle pregnancy and childbirth at this time?
• Can I provide the love and emotional support that a child needs?
• Am I thinking of parenting for the baby's sake, or in the hopes that the father will stay with me, or to have someone who needs me and whom I can love?
• How will I feel about the limits motherhood will put on my time and future plans? Will I have to quit school or my job?
• Can I count on any support from the father or his family? Can I count on any support from my own family?

How do I feel about adoption?

• Can I go through pregnancy and childbirth and then place my child for adoption?
• Could someone else give my child a better home than I can at this time in my life?
• Will the father be supportive of adoption? If not, how will I proceed?

How do I feel about having an abortion?

• Do I feel I have good reasons for having an abortion?
• Will the father support my decision to have an abortion? If not, how will I proceed? Is there anyone else who would be supportive?
• Will I have the emotional support that I need during and after the abortion?
• Will I feel regret or feel at peace about having an abortion? If I feel regret, how can I handle it?
  

Whatever you decide, you are taking charge of your future.
You can make your decision without embarassment and without apology. An unwelcome pregnancy can cause great distress, but it can also mark the beginning of a more mature and spiritual life. May the God of love and compassion be with you as you make your decision.